I don’t do well with cringe.
I don’t like cringe comedy, I fast forward, I hide behind my pillow, I switch the channel…. I really don’t like anything remotely cringe.
If there’s a cringe scene in a Film or TV and I’m with people, I will leave the room. (Apart from at the cinema. I stay seated at the cinema. And slowly die inside).
Even in social situations I can’t really deal. I will go out of my way to placate any cringe awkward situation.
Once, (and I’m cringing inside as I write this), I saw someone at the gym with her newborn baby. I don’t know her very well, but well enough to stop and say hi. She was sitting with a woman who was lovingly cradling my friend’s newborn.
I opened with the normal socially acceptable lines like “she’s adorable” (I knew baby was a she, it’s not always obvious!) and congratulated the Mother.
And then, for some inexplicable reason, as I’m watching this other woman cuddling and cooing over the baby, I blurt out:
“Aw are you the Granny?”
As soon as I’d said it I realise my mistake. She looked at me in disbelief and the Mother laughed nervously and replied:
“Oh no, this is my Boss…”
All the blood drained from my face and body and I wanted the ground to swallow me whole. I can’t remember what I said next, but I remember I did a swift exit into the room with rowing machines.
The thing is – Mother and Boss did look similar, physically, and there was something so tender and loving about her cuddling that beautiful newborn. But still. Socially acceptable it is not.
My husband, on the other hand, loves cringe comedy and recently starting watching Romesh’s series. You know the one when he’s “breaking America”?
I love Romesh too, he’s a fantastic comedian, but I JUST CAN’T as he struggles through life in the States and his upcoming gig.
Yes, it’s obviously made to be cringey but it’s not for me.
It’s the same for shows like the Office – I love it as it’s funny, but I do die a little bit inside as they maneuver all the numerous awkward situations.
But I wonder whether this is a cultural phenomenon? Swedes and Brits in particular, like cringe comedy, but we certainly do not like being in socially awkward situations.
Is this the same around the world? Would a person from Lithuania say, find the same things socially awkward as a Brit?
All I know is that I will dodge awkward situations as much as I can.
And most definitely not call someone a Granny without them having told me that they are one beforehand.